I support people on making big change decisions, and I also had a few chances for gender diversity conversations recently, and they have - again - been mostly binary. Politics largely seems to be binary, too, as I wrote the first version of this, a politician was being interviewed about an upcoming election featuring two … Continue reading How to unblock either-or thinking
Values are what underpins a lot of our behaviour. Often, this is unconscious, so looking at what we actually do can help us identify what matters to us underneath. So, let's play detective. Let's look at the patterns that drive what we do. What do you spend your time on? When you have a choice, … Continue reading Identifying your values: Time, money, energy
Values, explicit or implicit, can be a powerful guide. We want more of what matters to us. And often, values point to a bigger context that also matters. Decisions are then the key way this comes to life.
How do our values become our values? A lot of it has to do with how/where and with whom we grew up, culture, family, religion etc. What people say, and, more important, what people do. Culture as "the way we do things around here" (there are books full of definitions what "culture" is). What gets … Continue reading Values and shifting cultures
We humans want to be liked. We want people to like what we do. It feels great. It also seriously limits the scope for our decision making. To really get a sense of the lay of the land, to analyse, generate options and then come to a sound conclusion, we need as broad and realistic … Continue reading Devil’s advocate – your new best friend